A billboard in Chicago recently caused an outcry: “Life’s short. Get a divorce,” it said.
But it turns out fewer and fewer Americans are taking that lawyerly advice. Despite the cries about the imminent demise of marriage, divorce rates have been in steady decline for years and are now at a 37-year low, according to researchers.
True, several of the reasons for that drop might not seem favorable to marriage as an institution: More young couples are delaying marriage or not getting married at all.
One encouraging change since the 1970s is the healthy marriage movement and the growing awareness among Americans that marriage takes commitment and work to last. And that stable marriages benefit kids.
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Being a newlywed myself, the numbers are encouraging. But I find this thread curiously silent. Surely some of you “old hands” have some advice for a newbie.
Cool! I’m in the minority! I bet that divorces among 2nd marrages are also on decline.
Tommorow is my 36th wedding anniversary…I think acceptance, forgiveness, not taking yourself too seriously, and working at having fun together is a big part of staying happily married.Dave and I have had our bad times, but the good times far outweigh them. He’s a conservative, a Republican, and definately a left brain thinker..while I’m the total opposite..but it works really well because we accept our differences..although our political discussions get quite heated at times…he makes me think and I hope I do the same for him.
Marriage is something you have to work at. You hear a lot about it being 50/50. Well guess what? Some days it will be 80/20, 90/10 etc. You just never know which side you will be on. That’s just the way it is. Some days you are more in love than other days. That’s ok too. Just remember why you married each other and the work and effort you have put in as husband and wife. If you’ve got children you then you have more work to do.
The end result is a life long partner and a lot of memories (not to mention grandchildren).
I’ve been married for 30yrs and it is hard work. We have a generation of younger people that are used to instant gratification so when they get married and the first bouts of that hard work come up in the relationship, some people opt to bail out rather than invest in the relationship.
Again, it is that instant gratification thing. Raising kids is hard work and as we all know, many times a parent will not see their gratification in their kids’ lives until years later.
But what I found disturbing in the news report was that young people are choosing to never get married. Is this because of or tax system? Single parents who make less than $36,000 (I think) and who have kids will usually get a hefty tax refund check annually. So if a couple marries, then that single parent (usually the mother) loses that edge as compared to the married income tax rates.
I’ve worked in income tax office and any income tax preparer will tell you, that if you work the system just right, that single parent comes out with a tax refund of several thousand dollars and the boyfriend or dad is living in the same house. Now is that fair to the married couple with the same amount of kids and same amount of income – NO.
If the reason for the decline in divorces is because fewer people are getting married, then is this trend any healthier than the higher divorce rate?
My advice…try to have lots of adventures together, marriage can be work..but working at having fun is the best part!I can’t mention some of our “adventures” in a public forum…but Dave and I still laugh about them today. Now that we’re old, we’re not nearly as carefree and impulsive as we used to be.And I agree that the grandkids are the reward for sharing life’s ups and downs through all the years.
Fewer marriages= Fewer divorces. Marriage is a dying thing in the western world. Not only in the USA but in places like Europe and Austrailia too. Marriage does not really mean much anyway. I was married to my wife in Canada many years ago and the only reason we got married was that we had to for immigration. If she could have immigrated without marriage, we would have been totally happy just living together as a couple and would not have bothered with it.
Young kids need to stay away from marriage, and it’s finally becoming obvious that they don’t want to rush into a marriage just so they can have sex. Marriage is the committment of responsible aduts, not the flighty puppy love of teendom. You can ‘love’ someone till the cows come home and it won’t mean a hill of beans in a long term marriage unless that love is based on mutual respect and good communication.
Let me address the other side of marriage. I have been married for 32 years. It has been the worst 32 years of my life. We had our first child 6 months after being married. Me being from the old school I stayed around to raise that child. Then 7 years later we had our second child. I was not going to have another man raising my children so I am here in this terrible marriage that I would love to get out of. The wife told me over a year a go that our love life…what we had…has ended and that I should not look for it to come back. So now I pay all the bills and look foreword to time on my own away from her. I am 52 and my life is over. I dream of having someone that I can love and travel with. I dream of having someone that I can wake up in the mornings with and am happy that she is there. I dream of having someone that I can take care of and love. I love my children so I stay.
That is so incredibly sad. Too bad your children now believe that’s the way marriage should be, and are apt to repeat the pattern.
I’ve been married for four years and it’s been great. Not any bad times at all.
I think that patiences and selfishness behavior in a marriage is key.
Even with the arrival of our twins, which is really tough (sleepless nights, every night) we work as a team and everything is still great.
“Let me address the other side of marriage. I have been married for 32 years. It has been the worst 32 years of my life. We had our first child 6 months after being married. Me being from the old school I stayed around to raise that child. Then 7 years later we had our second child.”
By this math, your youngest would be 25 years old so why do you stay in a marriage you hate “for the children”? If he/she is 25, you need to tell him/her to move on and get their own life so you can try to get your life back. You should get a divorce and try Eharmony.com which, if you are honest, will match you with somebody like you are that you can enjoy.
If you marry somebody that is most like you are, you will not be unhappy. Most folks just marry somebody for sex or money- not because they really deeply love the person.
Joe I think you mean selflessness behavior.
And that’s true. You could have some young kids who are very mature, and then you can also have older people who are very immature.
Thanks P-Mom! You’re right. That’s the word I meant.
:)
For all you newbies out there congratulations on your leap of faith to share your life with someone!
For so many its a scary thing to commit to someone for a lifetime. They over analyze it, rethink it, and try to factor in all those pros and cons while making their lists for the perfect mate. My husband and I got married 23 years ago when we found out WE were pregnant. We didn’t have time to read statistics or take compatibility tests. Was it scary. Well of course. Was it something we HAD to do. NO. I could have raised our daughter w/ a weekend daddy. He could have raised her w/ a weekend mommy. We decided to choose LOVE. And frankly its the most difficult, fun, exciting, trying thing we will ever do and the most rewarding. Now we have two wonderful adult children, a new son-in-law and are joyful grandparents. It didn’t happen w/ one ounce of luck “brt999″. Nor did it happen wishing for something greener on the otherside of the septic tank to quote the infamous, happily married Ms. Bombeck. It happened because we are committed to making it work for everyone in our lives. Its called LOVE DUDE!
I wish the Eagle would do an investigative report on the evil divorce – child custody industry in Wichita.
Other than the illegal drug cartels, I can not think of any other commercial enterprise in which so many individuals profit by intentionally hurting their clients (individual parents & children) by perpetuating the conflict and by poisoning the relationships between parents and their children. By exasperating the conflict over several years, more money is made by the divorce attorneys, the case managers who are attorneys or psychologists selected by judges as master of the court to make decisions for the jduge at $185 per hour to be billed to the parents, the custody evaluators who are psychologists who are also case managers selected by their fellow cae managers, the children’s therapists who are also case managers who are seleced by their fellow case managers often over the parent’s objections, the visitation supervisors who are court guards who workers at the Wichita Children’s Home that charge $25 per hour to take notes and observe visitation of the parent who has lost his parental rights for complaining against the corruption, the drug companies, psychiatrists and family physicians that are paid to drug up the unhappy children with anti-depressants, bi-polar or ADHD medication, the child protection agencies that are paid as SRS subcontractors to provide foster because the courts can not admit it made a mistake and award custody to the parent who had complaiend against the corruption, and the court reporters who make extra money above their salary to prepare transciprtions for appeals or to prepare depositions.
The corruption in the Wichita family law courts is a disgrace. Several concerned parents are organizing to expose the local corruption and to lobby for new state laws to make sure that judges, attorneys, mental health professionals and SRS subcontractors are punished for misconduct. Please check out the website “A Child’s Right”
The first step is to contact us so that we can pass your story on to the state legislators that are trying to fix the corruption in way judges, attorneys & mental health professionals are investigated & disciplined.
The second step is to encourage reform-minded attorneys to run for electon next year to defeat unethical judges starting with Ballinger (D), Fleetwood (R), Pilshaw (D), Pullman (R), Wilbert (R) and Yost (R) to make sure that dishonest case managers and retired judges can not peddle influence.
You can call me at 655-8150 or check out the website – A Child’s Righthttp://achildsrights.com
Bill McKean
Bill,Did you ever consider that if you had been a halfway decent husband and father, you wouldn’t have been in court in the first place?
I think you are right on the money Bill.
I cannot even imagine that anyone in any county would re-elect Pilshaw in the upcoming election.
Pilshaw finished dead last in the poll on ethics and fairness and other issues in the poll of lawyers on 23 July 2006 which was published.
This year in March she received two public reprimands and cease and desist orders to discontinue her conduct in the cited actions.
Her now reprimanded procedure on motions locked out poor or pro se litigants from Due Process,and I can tell you the reason why:
“Pilshaw believes in the long run it will save a lot of time for your (Clerk of Court) office, the DA’s office and our office.”
I guess that old pesky Fourteenth Amendment does not apply in Sedgwick County Kansas:
Amendment XIV:
“All persons born and naturalized in the United States,and subject to the jurisdiction thereof,are citizens of the United States and of the state wherein they reside.
No state shall make or enforce any law which shall abridge the privileges or immunitiesof citizens of the United States;nor shall any state deprive any person of life,liberty,or property,without due process of law;nor deny to any person within its jurisdiction the equalprotection of the law.”
Then there is Fleetwood,a man who not only is a judge but apparently has held position in his church. I did a little reading on his denomination.
The research revealed that he would have been involved in ceremonies for his church.
One ceremony entails going to a higher level of acceptance of rank within his church. There are apparently several considerations to this process,one major facet is child support owed or arrears.
My research reveals that if you don’t meet the requirement for child support payments as the CHURCH sees it,you cannot ASCEND to the next level of”spirituality.”
I view this as being pegged an INFIDEL for child support owed.
We INFIDELS sometimes get injured,sometimes we suffer economic loss or greatly reduced income,or perhaps natural disaster like the poor folks who just had the tornado come thru their town.
Not to worry ol’ Fleetwood is on the job to make sure we INFIDELS give up all our money to the State,lawyers and the EX.
It is too bad Fleetwood wasn’t around during the days of the Bible.
It is said God owns the cattle on a thousand hills,yet the earthly parents of Christ were a poor carpenter and his wife.I would love to have seen him put one of his interesting orders against God and have God fry him to a crisp or perhaps the pillar of salt deal would have worked better.
Perhaps he could have had Hannah the mother of Samuel arrested,she devoted her son to the Priests and brought him a new suit of clothes annually.
I am sure Fleetwood would have had a TRO put on King David when his wife took his kids and went to live with another man…definetly an anger managment candidate after slaying Goliath,and a real gold mine for payments to the state.
I believe this man is the most dangerous of all of these judges because I do not believe he views any of us to be human in the site of his court. It is a good thing that no one is punished by stoning anymore.
Ballinger was publicly reprimanded for basically conduct unbecoming his bench and position.
I know nothing of Pullman,Wilbert,or Yost but if these 3 are like the others I have mentioned the Sedgwick County System is to say the least,a sad state of affairs.
I do not know how you Sedgwick County folks endure these persons,they simply scour the earth seeking for whom they may devour,they destroy families,pick their teeth clean from their fresh kill,and discard the dismembered family members as an unwanted carcass.
There are no words strong enoughto explain the toll in human suffering they relish to exact upon any who fall into their snare.
I hope the day will finally come when SOMEONE in the Federal government or the State of Kansas will bring these persons to the foreign concept in the SG county system:JUSTICE.
If you two had worked as hard at your marriage as you are with your divorce (assuming of course that you didn’t rush into marriage expecting dinner to always be hot on the table when you got home, whatever the time, and great sex after every dinner, no matter what), you’d still most likely have never seen the inside of a family courtroom. Quit blaming the judge; place the responsibility squarely where it belongs- on yourselves!
If you two had worked as hard at your marriage as you are with your divorce (assuming of course that you didn’t rush into marriage expecting dinner to always be hot on the table when you got home, whatever the time, and great sex after every dinner, no matter what), you’d still most likely have never seen the inside of a family courtroom. Quit blaming the judge; place the responsibility squarely where it belongs- on yourselves!
Jed – in regards to Bill’s comments above I have a question for YOU: How do you know Bill was NOT a good husband and father? How can you simply assume that ’she’ was not the problem.
I have seen situations similar to what Bill and AmeriDAD describe. The Courts make the same flawed assumption that Jed makes – the father is wrong and the mother always right. Well, I can tell you that I have seen far too many abusive gold-digging moms who will neglect their kids while using them to extract money from the fathers and even grandparents.
It is lone past time for the Courts to treat fathers with equality.
Hey JED,
Glad you attacked me perhaps you can explain why the EX,the woman of virtue in your analysis embezzled money for four years from her employer-which her Father and I paid in settlement or perhaps you could explain why she would allow another man to chop up a child’s toy with an axe,in front of the child.
If you think that Bill or I getting a divorce somehow AUTHORIZES judges & state officials to proceed wrongly under the color of law you are quite frankly out of touch of reality.
Your premise is much like the ol’ South and its courts filled with Klan members who would say…if you were not a person of color this would not be happening.
I assure you my getting a divorce did not create the corruption in Sedgwick County Kansas,it was there LONG before I dawned the door of the Court house.
Frankly, I am surprised more people have not told about how their marriages were broken up because of homosexuality and homosexual marriages performed in other states and countries. In the none too distant past, those were the major threats to ‘traditional’ marriage.
Even though Kansas does not officially recognize homosexual unions, there are many gay/les couples living here that have travelled to places where it is legal and gotten married.
If this was such a big threat to the sanctity of marriage, wouldn’t there be at least one person who could respond and say their marriage broke up because their spouse left them to go marry their gay lover in Massachusets.
I just found a great link to alert everyone to the SG county problem judges:
http://courthouseforum.com/index.php
Happy reporting to all!
Brian, that happened in my family…he was married for 10 yrs but couldn’t stay in the closet any longer, they had one child together.It wasn’t “choosing the gay lifestyle” that broke up the marriage as much as his denial about who he really was. He just couldn’t pretend to be something he wasn’t for the rest of his life.
Mary – a belated happy 36th. You have me beat by just about a month and a half. 1971 must have been a good year!
I have just read today that a State is considering curfews for men concerning the child support issue. The tactics of the “State” have all been accomplished before as referenced in the following excerpts of articles and information:
Ref 1: “Canceled citizenship and instituted the restrictions that forbid them to work for thegovernment,to be bankers,teachers and students and the number to work in professions was limited.”
Ref 2: “Took prisoners,confiscated property and imposed heavy financial punishments…and on the rest were cast economic restrictions.”
Ref 3: “The… laws deprived them of their rights of citizenship,giving them the status of subjects.”
Ref 4: The leader “became an official tasked with infiltrating and reporting to his superiors on their activities.”
Ref 5: The leader wrote a book,denouncing the ‘the enemies of the State’ as “parasites and laying the foundation for conquest.” Through the use of propaganda the ‘State’ became immensely popular with the people.
Ref 6: They used their propaganda machine not only to ‘acquire acquiescence but to convince citizens of their purity” and demonize the targeted group.
Ref 7: “Through a series of show trials,the defendants were sentenced.” Often using extreme tactics to extract confessions and agreeing on lenient sentences for a confession on false charges in the court,the court would turn on their word and exact the most severe level of punishment.
Ref 8: The enemies of the State were “forbidden to operate retail stores,mail order houses,or sales agencies,or to practice a craft.” “They cannot offer for sale goods or services,to advertise these or to accept orders at markets,fairs or exhibitions of all sorts.”
Ref 9: “They were forbidden to ride streetcars,go to the theater,play sports,go to parks,practice medicine,law or farming,and can only walk on certain streets.” They were forbidden to leave their homes except for a few hours each day. They were forced to deposit all their money in banks,then forbidden to taker the money out. The money was confiscated by the State.” “Telephones were taken away,and eventually,they could not have pets,attend school of any kind,and had to give up extraclothing.”
These measures were indeed tried by governments in the past. The irony is that these are the same procedural tactics (42 USC 666,yes 666)used by the ‘State’ against Fathers in this country.
I am sure there are people,especially State officials,who think these things are just fine. I now reveal where the above references originate from and you may draw your own conclusion.
REF 1 & 2: Vichy law, Nazi Germany
REF 3:Nuremberg Race Laws,Germany,1935
REF 4-7:Hitler & Stalin in review
REF 8-9: Source: FAQfarm,Life in Nazi Germany
I have recently read that now a State is considering curfews for men concerning the child support issue. The tactics of the “State” have all been accomplished before as referenced in the following excerpts of articles and information:
Ref 1: “Canceled citizenship and instituted the restrictions that forbid them to work for thegovernment,to be bankers,teachers and students and the number to work in professions was limited.”
Ref 2: “Took prisoners,confiscated property and imposed heavy financial punishments…and on the rest were cast economic restrictions.”
Ref 3: “The… laws deprived them of their rights of citizenship,giving them the status of subjects.”
Ref 4: The leader “became an official tasked with infiltrating and reporting to his superiors on their activities.”
Ref 5: The leader wrote a book,denouncing the ‘the enemies of the State’ as “parasites and laying the foundation for conquest.” Through the use of propaganda the ‘State’ became immensely popular with the people.
Ref 6: They used their propaganda machine not only to ‘acquire acquiescence but to convince citizens of their purity” and demonize the targeted group.
Ref 7: “Through a series of show trials,the defendants were sentenced.” Often using extreme tactics to extract confessions and agreeing on lenient sentences for a confession on false charges in the court,the court would turn on their word and exact the most severe level of punishment.
Ref 8: The enemies of the State were “forbidden to operate retail stores,mail order houses,or sales agencies,or to practice a craft.” “They cannot offer for sale goods or services,to advertise these or to accept orders at markets,fairs or exhibitions of all sorts.”
Ref 9: “They were forbidden to ride streetcars,go to the theater,play sports,go to parks,practice medicine,law or farming,and can only walk on certain streets.” They were forbidden to leave their homes except for a few hours each day. They were forced to deposit all their money in banks,then forbidden to taker the money out. The money was confiscated by the State.” “Telephones were taken away,and eventually,they could not have pets,attend school of any kind,and had to give up extraclothing.”
These measures were indeed tried by governments in the past. The irony is that these are the same procedural tactics used by the ‘State’ against Fathers in this country. I am sure there are people,especially State officials,who think these things are just fine. I now reveal where the above references originate from and you may draw your own conclusion.
REF 1 & 2: Vichy law, Nazi Germany
REF 3:Nuremberg Race Laws,Germany,1935
REF 4-7:Hitler & Stalin in review
REF 8-9:Source: FAQfarm,Life in Nazi Germany
Mary,So the legality of gay marriage did not cause the breakup of that marriage, rather it was caused by the fact that the guy was gay but married a woman and eventually came clean?
A-Dad,”Glad you attacked me perhaps you can explain why the EX,the woman of virtue in your analysis embezzled money for four years from her employer-”
I don’t know any of the particulars, but I can hazard some guesses.First, I wonder why you married such a woman in the first place. I would have to assume that either you married her without actually getting to know her, or she was so sexy (and/or you so sex-starved) you didn’t care, or you got to know a bit about her and assumed you could control her darker aspects. Those are ALWAYS mistakes!Second, is it possible she was embezzling because you had too tight a rein on her money? I’ve seen a lot of that!Having watched a lot of divorces, I’m highly suspicious of those settlements where one party gets all the credit, and the other gets the blame. In every divorce I’ve seen, there was plenty of blame for both parties to share. And it’s also amazing how many difficult marriages have been saved by partners who extended a bit of kindness at the proper moments and cut each other some slack!One thing to think about A-Dad; If you expect to marry again, and make it work this time, You’re going to have to be honest with your new wife, and the only way to be honest with her is to be honest with yourself. Your post leads me to believe you have a ways to go on that front. And the honesty has to begin at the beginning of the relationship, not at the altar! When, and only when you can be honest, emotionally and factually, with yourself, you will be ready to be honest with someone else. Until then, keep your distance!
Mary,Most of the older gay men I’ve known were married at some point, and divorced when it was no longer tenable. About half of the older lesbians too. They had tried to do it society’s way, really tried, and there was no way it was going to work! Now it’s society’s turn to change, and allow them a marriage that works for them. It will save an awful lot of heartbreak and hatred all around.
Jed-
What an amazing aplogetic you propose for muliplte year felony conduct by the EX,we should contact each other so you can come to Court and explain her behavior.
Let me explain a little further. The EX went to work at a travel agency when she was 17 y/o. The travel agency was owned by her Father’s friend. During the next four years she became an entrusted employee eventaully keeping the books for this small company.
We eventually married during the last year (actaully a few months)of her employment at this travel agency. I certainly will take the hit for having dated and married a woman who was not what she appeared to be. She fooled her parents,her employer and me,her husband.
I can with a clear heart tell you I wanted no harm to come to her during those years long ago. I was a young man who was foolish,who truly believed a man should love his wife as Christ loved the church.
I have now been married over a decade to a woman who does NOT steal from her employer or engage in the wrongful acts completed by my EX. The propensity to accomplish wrongful acts IS NOT based upon gender,race,or religion,rather it is based upon the individual and “the content of their character.”
I certainly do not need any advice from an arm chair feminist such as yourself. I am certain you have failed numerous times in your own domestic situations which resounds in your defense of CRIME by a woman.
You would be at the fore front to throw stones at any man for any reason,your hatred of your fellow man is to the point of seething in animosity and certainly it IS YOU,NOT I that will need to worry about being alone when you are old.
My children and my wife love me,they are my people and I am theirs,and NO Wichita arm chair semantics will ever change that FACT!
Now on to more pressing matters,my friend I told you I would place this info on the blog to publicize what transpired,the record should indeed speak for itself here is the email I rec’ddated 12 August 2005 concerning the NOW PUBLICLY REPRIMANDED PROCEDURE BY THE JUDGE,I have only replaced my name with “AmerDAD” concerning this matter:
(AmerDAD):
I received this e mail from Judge Pilshaw’s aide just moments after we spoke (see note below). I apologize that I misspoke regarding our pro se motion policy. Apparently, Judge has changed her policy.
Consequently, your motion has not been filed with the court as of yet. Judge will review your motion and send it back to us to be set up for hearing, or it will be returned to you if it has not been filed properly. Again, I am sorry for the misunderstanding. Thank you.
Crystal
TCC IV
(316) 660-5720
I’m not sure who I should send this to, so if you could, please make sure it gets passed on to the necessary people.
Any Pro Se Motions (whether they have a Notice of Hearing attached or not) that are being filed by defendant’s or litigants that require a hearing date from Judge Pilshaw, please do not accept filing immediately.
Please place the Pro Se Motion into our 11th floor box. Judge Pilshaw will review the paperwork to see if it complies with statutory requirements and local court rules.
If it does comply, it will be returned to the Clerk’s Office by me for filing along with a hearing date. If it does not meet requirements, I will prepare a letter returning the paperwork to the person who submitted it telling them it does not comply with requirements and that it will be reviewed again should they desire to submit further paperwork. Only paperwork that meets requirements will be allowed to be filed.
Judge Pilshaw believes in the long run it will save a lot of time for your office, the DA’s office and our office.
Thanks, Laura
Division 14
Judge Pilshaw’s Court———————–State twice reprimands judgeOne order says Rebecca Pilshaw mishandled a probation case; the other involves the filing of motions.BY RON SYLVESTERThe Wichita Eagle
The other order involved the judge not allowing a motion by a man convicted of kidnapping to be filed in the public court file.Pilshaw, “in this instance, followed an alternative procedure in which she apparently received the merits of motions in order to determine whether the motions should be filed with the clerk of the district court,” the commission wrote.
Motions are usually filed with the clerk before a judge hears them. “These are both procedural violations that judges are sensitive to,” Joseph said on the judge’s behalf.
Pilshaw is the third Sedgwick County District Court judge to receive the rare public orders during the past year, and the first to receive two.
I have done a little research and discovered that I am eligible for the award of three additional military honors. I am already decorated for service to this country so that Sedgwick County officials (sic)can do complete their daily measure of corruption. Here are the medals:
1) Korean Defense Service Medal
2) National Defense Service Medal
3) Cold War Certificate and/or Medal
Maybe anti-military,anti-disabled,anti-veteran,and anti-male officials like Pilshaw,Fleetwood,& Foulston could show up at the awards ceremony and have some jack booted thugs point weapons at me during the ceremony.
It was certainly what happened in my own driveway,I am sure they would be “proud” to show their “true colors” during this future ceremony.
A-Dad,”What an amazing aplogetic you propose for muliplte year felony conduct by the EX,we should contact each other so you can come to Court and explain her behavior.”
Hey, the only things I know about her behavior is what you tell me, and I already know you’re biased. I have a much better idea of yours, given the attitudes you express so voluminously above. It seems to me that anyone who feels the need to defend themselves with accusations of other’s supposed misdeeds at such length and so repetitiously probably has a lot of facts to defend themselves against that they want to divert attention from, so pardon me if I don’t extend the benefit of doubt. Obviously, you’re not about to accept any responsibility for the failure of your marriage. I await with bated breath your ex’s tale of woe. It’s probably a doozy!
Jed-
She will never respond to these blogs. She lives in Wichita. I would gladly list her name,her current employment and the employer she embezzled funds from during her employment. The reason I have not listed this info has nothing to do with her.
Your Kansas Statute depicts that criminals are protected against the by name revelations of their crimes. I do not worry about slander or defamation because the TRUTH is not slander.
I always defend myself against raging feminists like you,and you bet I am biased. I paid the money to make legal settlement for HER crimes.
I paid the admission fee long ago to be able to state how I feel about her embezzlement and perpetual wrongful conduct. You were no where in sight on that day.
There may very soon come the opportunity for you to become more aware of the full story and when you do I hope that you can appreciate these matters in a non gender biased manner.
I do not really worry what you think about a woman I have not been married to in nearly 20 years…were it not for the fact that your Kansas officials violated the law,I would have no occasion to speak to a feminazi such as yourself.
I have for a very long period of time realized that in domestic matters there are many people of both genders who have suffered due to Sedgwick County Kansas.
The only place you will hear my EXs “tale of woe” is when her defense attorney attempts to plead for mercy in front of a jury due to her acts of fraud,and falsely sworn oaths in violation of 18 USC 1001,and Federal & Kansas Statute.
The only difference between you,her and I is that I did not commit multiple felonies over years which are well documented by State & Court record. I guess I can only hope you did not commit crimes either.
Are you a felon too Jed? Is that why you are so concerned to defend crime? I think we have spoken before and you are using Jed because you don’t want your fellow bloggers in Wichita to know who you are.
If this is the same person with a different user name,you should accept that there are many female criminals in todays society,and I had the misfortune to marry one years ago.
A-Dad,”Are you a felon too Jed? Is that why you are so concerned to defend crime? I think we have spoken before and you are using Jed because you don’t want your fellow bloggers in Wichita to know who you are.”
Oh gee, if this is the way you treat your wives……No, I am not a felon, I don’t recall ever speaking to you and I use the screen name of Jed because that’s the name my mother gave me. I don’t use any other screen names, most of my fellow bloggers have met me at the meet-ups and know exactly who I am. I’m not really shy about expressing my views.Thank you for verifying my opinion “…that anyone who feels the need to defend themselves with accusations of other’s supposed misdeeds at such length and so repetitiously probably has a lot of facts to defend themselves against that they want to divert attention from.” You’ve just admitted to the whole blog that you’re not only a liar, but an idiot as well! I truly pity your current wife.
Hate to tell you this AmerDad, but those are automatic medals. If you served in those times and particular theaters (Korea) you automatically get them.
We used to joke about the National defense medal and called it the Battle of Lackland ribbon, as it’s the first medal you get out of basic officer or enlisted training.
I didn’t say it was the medal of honor,just I am due these 3 additonal awards to add to my other medals. We didn’t get the National Defense Service Medal back in the day out opf basic so I must have missed that one.
The point is I amdue these medals.
Jed-
I will bet my I.Q. is higher than yours,and I never called you a liar,just a misguided punk (or punkette)from Wichita who defends felons if they are from Kansas!
Jed-
There are no accusations that this woman from Wichita stole money from her employer,its an attorney filed settlement and a fact that transcends dispute.
I would expect name calling from the feminist crowd & eunuchs in Wichita,it goes with your worship of Nola Foulston.
I am delighted to tell you that as of end of business today these “fine” folks in SG county defaulted concerning legal filings which will begin the final process to bring both the EX and your SG officials to justice.
JED,there is no need for you and I to continue this blog-the premise is simple,SG county and the Ex lose,that is the deal,game,set and match.
I further have no desire to communicate in any way with a feminazi such as yourself,life is too short to waste time with a person of your low cerebral activity!
Do I hear uncle?
The only ‘uncle’ you will hear is that you are an idiot who could not bear the truth and you are a punk of no significance!