Conversely my first husband, I knew him for 5 years before we married- dirorced a year after because of all the violence…and we never had a computer.

The only good thing about this is getting the bride to be criminal records. However, with most domestic violence unreported and underreported, rapes unreported and underreported, I doubt this is really going to be all that helpful. Unless they’re trying to escape a potentially more gruesome place, most of these women will do a background check anyway.

How about Brownback concentrate on helping women in America?

“Stupid” isn’t true of all internet marriages or mail-order marriages for everyone. It’s your opinion. What is wrong is judging all by your second-hand experience with it.

Maybe you or they should go to those churches and see about making some changes.

Maybe we should have a moratorium on all new laws until we learn to enforce the ones we have. Six months? A year? At the end of the time, perhaps it might be wise to rid ourselves of those that are archaic and not used. (In Kansas, if done by the states, that would include no ice cream on cherry pie.)

We’re law crazy here in the U.S. Not that we don’t need laws, but as someone posted, no sooner are they made than they’re forgotten and never looked at again until some cause major problems.

But then I’ve often thought our entire government needs an overhaul. Like having 2 presidents (co-presidents?), one from each of the 2 major political parties. For sure, nothing would get done. ;)

Here’s to the hope of decent marriage, no matter where you found her.

But I’m curious, did you consider culture of the Philippines as a tourist before meeting her? It doesn’t sound like you visited the country before knowing she existed.

I think that’s missing in international dating. The idea of America nirvana for foreign women, but the lifestyle here stifles their culture. Place with palm trees, those things that define the Philippines as example, access to the ocean breezes and sunsets, to Kansas?

I’ve read bad stories how that becomes a terrible life. The good marriages don’t make the papers.

I think the process requires if guys are interested in “mail order” internatianally dating, they must have interest in that country prior trying to meet and take a female from there.

A passport showing the guy visited that country already, to be qualified for that international dating process.

But what’s the rule, people will do whatever the please and try to rationilize it. If meeting a girl through some broker…seems a broken way to meet a person.

Are you trying to say that stupid women marry men who are even more stupid? Are you a case in point?

What agenda are you referring to that women are taking over?

Are YOU a deadbeat dad?

Actually, mail-order brides have been around for a long, long time and were/are quite prevalent in certain areas, mainly those that don’t have a predominance of women. Those types of unions are still in existence today, and often those marriages prosper. Not my personal taste, but neither is beer.

If you’re reading, I refer you to gary g’s post above.

It is my understanding that until someone is harmed in some way there is no crime committed. How then can you make a law to insure no crime will be committed? Are our lawmakers (like Phil Kline) now omniscient? Somebody needs to tell God that these folks are after his job, but tell him not to worry, their attention span is very long and some new idea will be along shortly.

hmmm … I wonder if we could do that between states …