Monthly Archives: September 2005

Stories

I have successful friends. Guys I grew up with and have known since I was a tot (not a word I normally use) went on to become attorneys, principals, artists and health care professionals.

Yet every time we get together the conversation turns to our junior high and high school years or the years that came directly after.

We have told the same stories, about the same people, for more than 30 years. Yet they still make us laugh, sometimes uncontrollably. I suspect that’s because they make us feel younger, entice us to think back to the times in our lives that were simpler. Irresponsibility can spin some funny tales.

There are the crazy escapades in vehicles; we all drove like Steve McQueen in Bullitt. Stories about our misbehaving in school are always a hoot. Many of the stories we tell involve the consumption of alcohol. It’s funny, I can’t remember things that happened to me yesterday, when I was stone cold sober. But I have perfect recollection of a night 30 years ago when I was three sheets to the wind (a phrase I don’t often use).

I’m not pointing fingers; I’m as likely to tell a story about the "good old days" as any of my friends. Some of them are funny. We were a close-knit group and the stories we tell remind us of that. We don’t see one another nearly as much now. We are all well into our careers and lives and familes and those things supercede even the closest of high school friendships.

A few years ago, a group of us decided that we would get together on Monday nights during the football season to watch Monday Night Football at one of the area’s fine food and drink establishments. We haven’t missed a Monday night since.

It has helped make that an even more special day. I always look forward to seeing these guys and telling the same stories we’ve told one another year after year after year.

You would think those stories would get old. But they don’t. They help keep the bond among us strong.

I hope we’re telling the story about how I grabbed the index finger of a junior high science teacher after he pointed it at me in anger for the next 25 years. I could listen to the stories of how my friend, Ron, nearly killed us with his crazy driving. Or how Doug got into a fist fight in the school auditorium before first hour one morning. We’ve got a million of them, not all of which are blatantly juvenile.

These are our stories. And it’s our responsibility to keep them fresh in our minds.

Bob and Bill

I propose that the capability of sending e-mails to blutz@wichitaeagle.com be stripped from every Kansas State football fan. Can I make this happen? Is there a state legislator I can talk to? Or is this a federal issue?

No, actually, my Kansas State friends are a lot of fun. Every time I say anything that could be interpreted as a slight question of Bill Snyder’s authority as the Wildcats’ football coach, my inbox becomes the food line at a college cafeteria.

To those of you who think I’m a little bitter because Snyder denies the media much access to his football program I can only say: Ding ding ding ding. You win the jackpot. Being a sportswriter, I like access to the things I cover. Funny, huh? I’ve found that I can do my job so much better if I can actually talk to the people involved.

So why doesn’t Snyder take his media paranoia thing all the way? Why not refuse credentials to games? Why hold a weekly Tuesday news conference in Manhattan? Why talk to reporters after games?

I’ll tell you why. Because even good ol’ Bill understands that would be going too far. If he did that, there are probably even two or three Kansas State fans who would grumble because I suspect even they enjoy getting up in the morning and reading a story about Kansas State football.

Snyder isn’t alone in his media policy. Other coaches, including Mark Mangino at Kansas, have adopted his anti-media stance. Mike Leach at Texas Tech closed ranks so tight that the Fort Worth Star-Telegram has pretty much stopped covering the team.

I’m the first to admit that those of us in the media can be a real pain in the rear. But we’re pretty nice people when you get to know us.

It’s our problem and I don’t expect you to be much concerned. But don’t expect me just to shut up and accept it, OK? It’s just not my style. I’m a cage rattler. It’s one of my most endearing qualities.

Finally, to all Kansas State football fans: I have decided to limit my access to you. I will be available for e-mails every Wednesday from 3 p.m. until just after 3:07. Other requests should be made through my public relations department, just as soon as I get one. Hey, it works for Snyder.

A sad day

It was a bright, sunny Friday afternoon. I was a sophomore in high school, walking home after a day of classes when I heard the news.

An airplane carrying members of the Wichita State football team had crashed into the mountains in Colorado. I don’t remember the details because the news made me numb. But I do recall my first thought: Was Shocker broadcaster Gus Grebe injured or killed?

Fortunately, Grebe was on a second plane carrying the team, administrators, boosters and coaches to Logan, Utah, for a game against Utah State the next day.

The 35th anniversary of the tragedy is coming up and I still give pause every year to one of the defining events of my youth. I was a Wichita State football fan in those days. I attended all the home games with my dad.

Anyway, for those of you old enough, I’m interested in knowing the impact the Shocker plane crash had on your life. And even if you weren’t alive at the time, send along your comments.

The Derby football team had a game that night at Campus, our biggest rivals. Of course, Derby won the game. But it was a somber atmosphere as people awaited the latest news from Colorado.

I had lived through the assassination of John F. Kennedy in 1963. And, locally, the tanker plane that crashed on North Piatt in Wichita in 1965 definitely caught my attention. But I was so young then and really not capable of assimilating such news.

By 1970 that had changed and the Shocker plane crash was devastating for me. To think that players I had followed so closely on the field had suddenly died was difficult for me to comprehend. One of those players, Steve Moore, was from Derby. I knew where he lived; his younger sister was an acquaintance.

I can still feel the raw emotion of the day. Of feeling like a typical teenager without a care in the world one minute, and in the next feeling as if the world needed for me to care. And I did.

Some would say I have never grown up. But on that day _ Oct. 2, 1970 _ I’m pretty sure I did.

I’m Lost

The great thing about the television show Lost is that I really never know what is happening. I need to get to work the next day and discuss the previous night’s episode with my friends before I can make any sense of who’s doing what to whom and why. And then I’m not real sure.

Wednesday’s episode, the first of the new TV season, has me confounded. What is going on inside that hatch?

Who is that guy? What is his association with Jack? Is this all an elaborate set-up? And if so, for what purpose?

OK, this is the last I’ll talk about Lost for a while. But I’m so hooked on this show.

Meanwhile, thanks to everyone who is contributing to this blog. Some good ideas for music and books and the such. I’ll get to as much as I can. It’s time I became a more well-rounded person and I’m depending on you bloggers to help. I read everything that is sent in and I post most of it for others to read. This could change Wichita. And have you noticed how I’m catching on to blog lingo. I now speak blogese.

Check with you soon.

Counting the minutes

We’re just a little more than an hour away from the first Lost episode of the new television season. I realize some of you couldn’t care less, and I apologize for getting on this tangent. But for those who do care, check back after the episode tonight and see what I think. And tell me what you think, which will be infinitely more interesting. See you then.

That’s what I’m talkin’ about

OK, OK, now we’re rolling. People are responding. I feel wanted. Which is very important for me. If I don’t feel wanted I tend to shrivel up into a ball and sleep for days upon end.

But some of your suggestions for music have inspired me. Let’s see, here are the bands suggested so far: Split Lip Rayfield (love that name), The Bravery, Bright Eyes, Hot Hot Heat and the Killers. I’m going to give all of them a listen and I’ll check back later. Actually, I have heard some of the Killers’ stuff and like it. When I’m driving around in my car, I’ll slip some of this stuff into my CD player.

OK, now I’ve got something else for you all to participate in. Seriously, have you ever had more fun? Lost is my absolute favorite television show. And the Season 2 debut is tomorrow night with two hours. Of course, the highlight is going to be that we finally get too see what is inside the mysterious hatch that the survivors opened in the Season 1 finale.

I want your guesses. And I’ll buy a drink for anyone who guesses right, up to two people. Because, after all, I’m a journalist and really can’t afford a round for the house. Plus I’m paying off a car, a house, a . . . well, I don’t need to get into that. Oh, college tuition, can’t forget that one.

Keep the responses coming. I get a nickel for every one, which means I’m up to almost $3. Actually, I don’t really get a nickel for your response. I have to tell you that because so many people can’t tell when I’m kidding.

I feel a connection here with you fellow bloggers. A deep, satisfying connection.

Give and take

I’m told one of the great side benefits from blogging is the sharing of ideas. Well, if you’re keep track of the comments to this blog, you know that ideas are in rather short supply.

No offense, because I appreciate the time each and every one of you is taking to read this blog and to contribute to it.

But when I asked for music suggestions, zilch. I didn’t get any. I’m one who wants to broaden his horizons. I’m interested in knowing whether you’re reading any good books. Have you stumbled onto a band that I should listen to? Is there a television show I’m missing that I should watch?

Interaction, people. I want interaction.

Want to talk politics? OK (but you might not like my ideas). Want to talk about the media? OK. Want to take a shot at my radio cohort Paul Savage? Definitely OK.

I’m enjoying this blog because I’m getting to write about things I don’t normally get to write about. I have no idea if it is attracting an audience. Let me know if you’re reading. Let me know what you’d like to see. Yes, folks, I am taking requests.

Who am I?

I had this idea to go back and look at my senior yearbook from high school in Derby and see what people had to say about me. It’s been a while since I’ve done that.

I think most of my friends liked me, which is a good thing. If most of your friends don’t like you, imagine what your enemies think.

Anyway, here’s a sampling of what some of those people had to say about me more than 30 years ago, with my comments in parentheses:

From Christine: "You’re really an unusual guy, but just the same I think your neat (this is how we talked then). It’s been fun in geometry, even during our fights (I was mouthy in those days).

From Vicki: "You’re a really wonderful guy. I never even talk to you any more (this is why she thought I was a really wonderful guy) but I really still think a lot of you. I don’t know what else to say except that you are a really wonderful person.” (The mystery of why Vicki thought I was such a wonderful person remains to this day).

From Ron: "To a fantastic baseball pitcher (got that right) and an all-around great person because you know German. (Yeah, I know German, laugh). Keep up the good work and perhaps you’ll be the only All-State pitcher who knows German.”

From Becky: "Bobby, to a great guy who is very good lookin’ (Becky wore bifocals). I hope we’re always friends.” (Lost track of Becky years ago)

From Charlene: "I don’t know where to really begin. But I guess I’ll tell you that all those times I seem like such a gripe, I’m just teasing you coz’ I knew it bothered you. Not for meanness, for fun. (How many times have I heard that from a woman since?) Really, Bob, you’re a really great person with a wonderful personality.”

From Miss Holsapple, the teacher who kicked me out of journalism class: "You are a good sports editor and I hope you keep improving with time. Good luck in the future with your journalism career.” (Well, Miss Holsapple, thanks for everything you did for me, like kick me out of the freakin’ class)

From my pal Doug: "You’re a great friend. We’ve had a lot of great times. Good luck on the radio.”  (Doug later became a fortune teller)

From Ron: "We’ve had some great times together in school and sports. Even though we beat the heck out of each other, I know we’ll aways be great friends. (I’ve still got the scars to prove it)

From Diana: "Bob, I have no idea what to say to you. You are such a good friend of mine. Even when we get into fights and stuff, it’s fun. You really have a great, wonderful personality. I just love coming into journalism and fighting with you! (Are you seeing a trend?)

From Glennda, who has already made a rather nasty contribution to this blog: "Dear Bobby-do, everyone probably tells you you’re the funniest guy around and you sure are (I paid her to write that). I’m glad that I’ve gotten to know what a great guy you are. I’ll never forget that night, either. My cat’s in love with you (OK, I don’t know what happened but I need to find out).

And finally, from another Vicki, someone I went to grade school with: "To a really grouchy guy. You remind me of an old man.” (Some people just hit the nail on the head).

Couch Potato

The new television season is beginning and by my calculations I will be spending an average of 174 hours per week in front of the tube. Never mind that there are only 168 hours in a week _ I’m going for an extra six.

What has happened to me? My brain is turning to mush. Yet there I am, night after night, remote in hand. Lost in the world of ABC, NBC, CBS, UPN, WB, Fox, HBO, F/X, Discovery, CNN, CNBC, MSNBC, etc. If it’s got an initial, I’m watching.

A little bit ago, I took time to go through and write down all the television shows I watch. Not just that, I wrote down the new shows that I want to watch. And some of the old shows that I don’t watch regularly, but would like to.

My conclusion is that I’m a worthless slug of a human being, so devoted to the tube that the rest of my life is without merit. But is that going to make me cut back on my viewing? Heck no. Are you kidding?

Let’s break it down before we go any further:

Shows I Watch Religiously: Grey’s Anatomy, Boston Legal, Desperate Housewives, Lost, Law and Order, Law and Order: SVU, CSI, The King of Queens, Without a Trace, 24, American Idol (yes, yes, I’m ashame), The Simpsons, House. That is 12 hours a week, and doesn’t include sports. And I watch a lot of sports.

Shows I’m Interested in Watching Religiously: Cold Case, Law and Order: Criminal Intent, Medium, Joey, Will and Grace, Amazing Race, CSI: Miami; Arrested Development, The Bernie Mac Show, Prison Break, Veronica Mars, Rescue Me, Over There. That’s another 12 hours a week. We’re up to one full day, not including sports. And remember, this is all night-time viewing as I’m rarely home during the day.

New Shows I’m Interested in Watching Religiously: Invasion, Night Stalker, E-Ring, My Name is Earl, Threshold, Bones, Killer Instinct, Supernatural, Everybody Hates Chris, Out of Practice. That’s another eight hours. We’re up to 32 hours a week of television viewing.

I’m a slug, nothing more than a slug.

What are your favorite television shows? Anything I’m missing (I can’t imagine what it is) that I should be watching? Write with tips.

Dave Freeman is watching out for you

My sincere thanks to everyone who is posting on this blog. I have enjoyed your comments and appreciate the time you take to do so. I know I’m not holding up my end in this process by posting as much as I should. I’ll try and do better.

Now, on to Dave Freeman, the "chief" meteoroligist for Channel 3 News in Wichita. I’ve met Dave and he’s a good guy. He didn’t seem to take himself seriously off camera.

On camera? Or on the airwaves? Little different story.

Have you heard the commercial that runs on radio in which Freeman says something like this: Kids are scared of storms and parents in Wichita and surrounding communities would be wise to sit those kids down and tell them that Dave Freeman is watching out for them. Freeman always speaks with such earnestness about the weather. And yes, I realize weather can be a very serious matter. But to suggest that parents need to gather the kids around for a talk about Dave Freeman _ well, it seems a little self-indulgent.

Parent: Kids, we know you’re a little antsy when there’s thunder and lightning. So your mother and I just want to tell you that one of our weathermen, "chief" meteoroligist Dave Freeman, is going to take good care of us.

Kid: Daddy, I want some soup.

Parent: Now, now, you have to listen to us about this. Weather is important. Just listen to Dave, he’ll tell you. He’s on TV all the time.

Kid: SpongeBob is on TV? Does Dave Freeman know SpongeBob?

Parent: Hey, I’m serious. Weather is serious. Dave is serious. Please pay some attention to this. When there is the threat of bad weather, we’ll all gather around the television and listen to Dave.

Kid: My thumb hurts.

Parent: Don’t you understand? Dave Freeman wants to make us safe. Especially you kids. He’s a "chief" meteoroligist.

Kid: A chief medeur-what?

Parent: I give up. We’re switching to Merril Teller.